WIT'S END

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When you reach your wit's end, there is the spot when you must rely on the power greater than yourself to make a way through the storm.

Sometimes it's not about what you've not done, it's about doing nothing and just keeping calmness. Sometimes it's about patience - being content to wait if necessary without fear, anxiety, anger or other negative emotions.

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Sometimes it's just that you're just a night away from your breakthrough. It's often hardest when you're closest. Stick it out; stick in there.

You are an Icon!

Adeleke David Adekunle
(Mr. Effectiveness)
Twitter: @davidadeleke

Instagram: @mreffectiveness

(FREE) Download 7 Startup Blunders eBook by Adeleke David Adekunle

Merry Christmas!!!

It's finally here! I've longed for this day just as much as you have looked forward to it.

 I am on a mandate to execute an economic revolution in Africa, and a pivotal strategy is powering startups for growth and flourishing.

7 Startup Blunders (eBook) is a concise and practical book exposing 7 deadly mistakes that kill startups. These are mistakes you must avoid in 2015 and beyond if you plan to keep your business alive.

Feel free to share with everyone you love and hate; it's FREE!

I look ahead to your comments and feedback. Send them to mreffectiveness@outlook.com.

To your control,

You are an Icon!

Adeleke David Adekunle

(Mr. Effectiveness)


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7 STARTUP BLUNDERS: Deadly Mistakes That Kill Startups (#NewBook)

Christmas is here!!

I have taken out time to think through what would be a fantastic Christmas gift for startups out there. My conclusion was to give something valuable that can change the course of their experience in the coming year 2015.

I present the all-new eBook, 7 STARTUP BLUNDERS: Deadly Mistakes That Kill Startups.

The book will be released on Sunday, December 21, 2014. I will be speaking to about one hundred young startup entrepreneurs on that same day and I think the book will make a great gift for every one of them.

It's yours for the taking. I kept my promise to keep it short, direct, easy to understand and practical.

And the good part is this: IT IS FREE!

You simply have to request for it. That tells me you really want it. So get to it. Send a request email to info@startupplusng.com using "7 StartUp Blunders" as the subject.

To every startup out there...this is for you!

To a fabulous 2015...

And to power to control your growth as a startup...

You are an Icon!

Adeleke David
Mr. Effectiveness

MATURITY: Mumu But Sensible

Looking over my experiences in life, I used to be really cocky, as most people are. I would always insist on my rights and defend myself whenever I was "accused" of doing something wrong. But I remember one fateful day in my final year in the University while working on my final project, I did something wrong and my supervisor made a comment;

he said, "Leke will always find an excuse for everything".

What! I was taken aback. This man doesn't even know anything about me, or so I thought.

That day marked the beginning of a lifelong decision to stop making excuses. It wasn't easy at all. It took several years to stop unconsciously making excuses. It was as though I was programmed to give an excuse without thinking, and the excuse always made sense. And it proved a sensible argument, But that was not healthy for me and the destiny I was pursuing.

If you are like me, back then, cos I have grown and moved on, you may never into the fullness of your dreams if you don't shed some weight. Making excuses is a weight and it is a sign of immaturity. Refusal to be corrected is a mark of immaturity too. Both, displayed as cockiness, can be lethal to anyone with a great destiny.

Here's my advice, even if you have to appear like a mumu just to take the mature position, do so. No one gains anything ahead of you for appearing to look stronger. True strength is in character and will power to reach for one's dreams. Today, I have learnt by working and living with very difficult people beginning from my father to be mature: appear like a mumu but actually sensible.

I live now based on this premise: "If it is possible, as much as it lies with you, do everything possible to live in peace with ALL men - good, bad, difficult, suspicious, irritable, unlovable, nonchalant, stupid, backward, annoying, evil, wicked, corrupt, brutal etc."

I have chosen to be mature regardless of what the other party does. We all reap what we sow.

You are an Icon!

To your maturity,

Adeleke David Adekunle
Mr. Effectiveness
Twitter: @davidadeleke

Table of Men: Reconciling Differences in Relationship

Welcome to the Table of Men.

In times of difference, we have a very likely tendency to do our "thing": lock up in that familiar fortress of silence.

Here is what i believe will help:
As the man, put the issue on the table neutrally and let her present her opinion. Women will more likely express their opinion readily. So reserve yours for after hers. While she is talking, listen for her heart not her words. Understand the point of view she is seeing things from. With that, you will be able to give a balanced perspective when you're expressing yours. Remember it's all about leadership - gaining influence with her. While giving your opinion, validate hers and present yours as a complementary view not a differing view.

It's like looking at the landscape from two sides of a mountain. What you see is correct; what she sees is correct. It's only that you both are seeing half of the full picture. When you put yours together with hers, you get a full correct picture. That's what couples try to do when they have different opinions about the same issue - Harmony. You both are trying to have the full and right picture if the issue on ground, which are the emotional and the logical.

So, please be patient with her. You will need so much of that patience for God knows how long. I can tell that you both have made radical progress over time. And that gladdens my heart. Who could have thought you both will come this far! So now is the time to celebrate your strength together. They say, "there is strength in diversity", and God never intended men to be like women and vice versa. He made us differently so that we could have it complete in our marriages.

Let the friction result in smoothening out of rough edges. If you both keep rubbing the rough edges against each other, the friction will keep getting hotter, but the surfaces will eventually smoothen out. Once they are smoothened, the friction will naturally drop drastically! That's when you have mastered that area of your relationship. I'm speaking from some of the raw, unpalatable experiences I've had in my relationship too. The situations are peculiar but the principle remains the same.

So, be the MAN; that's who you are!

Note by:
As men, we shouldn't do many things for and to our wives because we are comfortable doing them but because it's the right thing to do; especially when she isn't deserving of it. That's what God was saying when he said, "Husbands, love your wives". He knew we would find it a little challenging, but trusting him for help and relying on him to lead us in our thinking, feelings, motives and actions makes all the difference. And mind you, praying for your wife when you least feel like is the most effective of times because the prayer happens with emotion. You may be the only one praying for her in the whole world!

YOU ARE AN ICON!

ONE THING TO NEVER FORGET!!!

Till you draw your very last breath, don't you for one second forget this; don't let it slip into forgetfulness; don't relegate it to the backside of your mind. Keep it in front of your eyes, on your wrist and paste on your forehead. Convince yourself everyday and remind yourself of it.

YOU ARE AN ICON!

Would you grant me the privilege of tuning in to Radio Continental 102.3FM tomorrow morning from 7am to 10am as I discuss topical issues that affect our lives as Nigerians; and to www.praiseworldradio.com/tune-in from 1PM to 1.30PM for EFFECTIVENESS ON RADIO (Your premier Business & Career Effectiveness Show with Mr Effectiveness)

Enjoy your Sunday massively!

You are an Icon!
Adeleke David (Mr. Effectiveness)
Twitter: @davidadeleke
IG: @mreffectiveness

Global Icon: Adeleke David makes June 2014 Top 100 Leadership Experts to Follow on Twitter

Good day Friends.

I have some good news for you!!!

Just today, I was named among the June 2014 World’s top 100 Leadership Experts to Follow on Twitter by Evan Carmichael. Tjis comes just as the 2014 World Cup kicks off tonight (WAT GMT+1)

Follow the link to view the list. I am currently on number 84. This puts me on a global scale with top thinkers around the world.

Here it is

Thank you for your retweets; they did a lot of work. God made it happen!!!

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Mr. Effectiveness

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