DON'T HANG YOUR BOOTS

Football matches are rather energetic and loaded with tension. If you watched the UEFA Champions league 2012 final between Bayern Munich of Germany and Chelsea of England on Saturday, 19 May 2012 at the Allianz Arena in Munich, Germany. It was a nerve-wringling match. I did not know who to suppport but Chelsea came across as a favorite to me because of my desire to see Didier Drogba win a Champions League Final.

The match of course went in favor of Chelsea after penalty shoot-outs: 4-3. It was a day to rejoice after adrenalin had been pumped across the world!

Unlike the very usual, I want to inform you not to hang your boots after any encounter that defines a very important moment in your life. One of the greatest deterrents to lasting greatness has been discovered to be the "comfort zone". This is a when a person refuses to leave a place of success or failure in fear of attempting other ventures and in an attempt to hold on to what was already in his or her gallery.

Here are six important insights that have really affected me.

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LOVE IN TOKYO

It is no longer in vogue, but back in the early 1990’s this was the thing! Whenever a guy and a girl were playing love on the roadside, rather than say they are so in love, the expression was “see love in Tokyo”.

I am not a hard core relationship specialist, but I have some experience and some really profound insight about relationship matters, one of which I want to share with you. We all experience painful moments particularly caused by those that we trusted wholeheartedly. There are many ladies whose hearts bleed continuously because of a beloved who was unfaithful. Many guys carry deep-seated hurt caused by a girl who betrayed their trust. The danger I have so often found is that the aggression and hurt is transferred to other innocent individuals who come the way of these wounded lions and tigers. Without knowing the graveness of their emotional state, they destroy potentially beneficial relationships because of past hurt and negative experiences.

My word to you if you are in this state is to look beyond the experience. You cannot claim to be going forward with your concentration on your rear. You are bound to crash! Take your eyes off the past. Hard as it may seem, it is beneficial for you to progress in life. Bitterness is like holding on to a tree and asking the tree to let go of you. You have to let go, else you may miss out on the real treasure you seek.

If the whole world is cruel, there will always be an exception that perfectly suits you. The day I found that perfect exception, I knew the pain was worth the while. Why do I say this? My emotions had been tried and I had mastered them. See these painful experiences as opportunities to become better in preparation for that special person that will sweep you off your feet.

There is always an exception that perfectly suits your individuality; prepare by first taking your eyes off the past. Next, develop yourself to become such a desirable person. Finally, wait patiently for that special person to cross your path. Listen carefully to the lyrics of this song from Glee; it says “You are the only Exception!”

There is always an exception!

You are an Icon!

To your emotional effectiveness,

Adeleke David

Effectiveness Expert