THE 3 LAWS OF EXCEPTIONALITY

Have you wondered what the greatest of men in the history of the world did to become so exceptional? Of a truth, there are stars and there are superstars, and there is a whole world of difference between them.  A wise man opined that “the secret of men is in their daily routine” meaning that there are things that these people did that made them so exceptional. In The Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell is of the opinion that the outliers–those people that engendered extraordinary results–performed so not just because of what they did but also because of where they are from. I totally agree with him and I suggest that you make the most of your background and all the advantages that it offers you in your quest for an exceptional life. But in this post, I am going to dwell on those things you need to do to make your life count maximally. Knowing and taking advantage of your background, you must do the right things also to be really exceptional. That is what Effectiveness is all about; and that is my message to you.

Just yesterday, Goldie, a Nigerian Music Star and one of the faces at Big Brother Africa died of pulmonary embolism in the wee hours of Friday, February 16, 2013. Shocking as it was, it reinforced the fact that you have such a brief lifetime to be all that you are made to be. At the most, you have twenty years atop a century. And if you are reading this, I would guess that you have consumed the twenty years over and above the century mark. If the reports of the UNFPA are anything to go by, life expectancy is not more than 90 years in any country in the world. Going by this, it tells that you are, at the moment, left with less than 70 years to be all that you were born to be. That calls for some reasons to be serious and intentional about each and every moment of your life; especially NOW!

Exceptionality. What does it mean? The closest word to it is Uniqueness. You are the only you that ever existed, currently exists and will ever exist on this earth. God has not run out of genetic combinations to repeat one combination in all the time the world has been in existence. That tells me that you have one life that is unique in all its ramifications. There is no one that can behave, perform and influence the world in the way that you can. You are one in 12 billion! Let that stick first.

Now, to the 3 Laws of Exceptionality. The three laws I am about to share with you are three of the most powerful truths that I have found in my research into the annals of history of the most exceptional men that ever walked the face of the earth. Talk about men like Alexander the Great, Jesus Christ, Abraham, Abraham Lincoln, Benjamin Franklin, George Muller, Martin Luther King Jnr., Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Micheal Faraday and the list goes on. The interesting part is how I have come to understand these three laws. My understanding of them is completely different from how I have heard most of the world’s motivational speakers talk about them. So why not see my perspective and how it drives exceptionality.

The Law of Giving

Whatever must leave the hand must have already left the heart.

I discovered that we don’t really give with our hands; rather we give from our hearts. All giving that is not from the heart is simply hand exercise. Many people claim to give but they are only wasting their time and resources, because nothing can be expected from such endeavors.  There is a right way to give without which the whole essence and power of giving is defeated. I have written severally that “a lie never turns out to be true”; so no matter how long you spend doing the wrong thing, it will never turn out to be the correct thing. Nature is designed to support only the very things that are rightly done. Giving done apart from the heart carries no promise of returns, bears no real value and counts for a loss to the purported giver. For giving to truly count, it must be from the heart and leave from the hand. Otherwise, it is not giving.

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Adeleke David (Mr. Effectiveness)

MENTORING

Mentoring is the fastest route to where you are going. It is riding on the carriage of those who have walked the same path you are on right now. Mentoring is your advantage above your peers. It is your access to the wisdom and experience of an entire generation before you. I’m sure you don’t want to take it for granted.

Mentoring is like an aircraft; it gets you to your destination faster than those who ply the road. True, it may be difficult for the aircraft to mount into the air, but its speed will definitely give you the needed advantage. Mentoring gives you unprecedented access to what those who went before you have learnt by errors, mistakes and attempts over their years of experience. It gives you confidence, directs your actions and gives you the freedom to be intentional with every move you make. With mentoring, you are not guessing!

If you want to be effective, you need mentoring. Let me put it in a better light: If you want to arrive at your dreams faster, you need mentoring! If you want to avoid the hidden pitfalls, escape the discouraging hassles and beat the odds against you, mentoring is the key. I have mentors who guide my steps. They reveal to me what I couldn’t have discovered on my own. They show me what could have taken me five years to find out. They help me avoid pitfalls that could have slowed me down and discouraged me. They help me gain speed and maintain my momentum towards significant achievement. I bet you desire the same.

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SHIFT

Move. Adjust. Stir.

Just don’t stay in the same spot one moment longer.

If you believed that the world was going to end today, ushering in aliens from another planet into the earth, you surely are as disappointed as I am. I was really looking out for a glimpse of outer space. And like a psychopath said, I was looking forward to catching my alien pet too! lol.

Hey, wake up! The world won’t end just like that! Before you realize it, it will be 2013. You have a few days to do a few things that can make the New Year count for maximum good. I’m not talking about New Year resolutions, neither am I referring to New Year goals. This is my word to you: SHIFT!

Shift in these four directions:

1.       Shift from where you are. Don’t let the New Year catch you in the spot you currently occupy. Eleven days are enough to make some of progress. I know that the traditional practice by most people is to give up on the year once we are a few days to Christmas, but the truth remains that the year ends at 11:59:59 on December 31! Before you throw in the towel, let that moment arrive first. Give a few more shots; take a couple of extra attempts; try again. Whatever you do, ensure that you make progress – however little it may seem.

2.      Shift from what you’ve been doing. Doing the same thing guarantees the same results. Take a different approach. Adopt a practice you’ve hitherto neglected. Try something new. Make a shift in your habits; start forming new ones. You should know that habits can be formed and unformed. Stop what you have been doing that has brought you to where you are right now.

3.       Shift from how you have been thinking. Your thinking has attracted all that you see in your life today. If your experience will change in the coming year, then you must shift in your mind. Re-program your mind to conform to your dreams. Change your school of thought about your state of health, financial life and even your spirit.

4.      Shift from what you have been learning. You can never be more intelligent than the quality of your information sources. If your information sources are healthy, then you need to increase the quantity of what you learn. When you increase the quantity of what you learn, you need to be consistent in the art of learning. Who you learn from controls the outcome of your future. Take precaution in choosing what you read, who you listen to, and what you watch. Don’t forget that the power of the remote control is in the red button.

SHIFT...from where you are, from what you've been doing, from how you have been thinking...to how you ought to be.

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DON'T HIRE COMPUTERS!

This is especially to CEOs but if you are an employee or an aspiring CEO reading this, you are buying yourself an advantage.

I have observed and studied the workplace for some time now and I have observed that most of the people in organizations are not any better than a computer. Before you smile about that statement, give me some paragraphs to tell you what a computer truly is.

Researchers have proved that the capacity of the human brain is the number one plus eight long pages of zeros! If your mental capacity is this infinite, why are you performing so poorly? Or why are your members of staff performing so below par? If you agree with me, you will acknowledge the fact that computers were manufactured by humans. And you will agree too that only a fraction of the human brain’s capacity was replicated into the computer.

What disqualifies a computer from getting hired?

•  Computers can’t think! It is incontestable to say that computers don’t think, or better still can’t think! Why? Because they just cannot, as well as animals cannot.
• Computers lack initiative. Computers function only with the input of a human mind. Computers cannot initiate processes on their own; they are created to process instructions that have been given to them. Same goes with many workplace people. 
•  Computers are not proactive. They stay “booted” idly waiting for the boss to dish the next instruction to them. If you are boss intending to shed your work load yet hire a computer, you have successfully added some bigger responsibility to the already burdensome work load you have.
• Computers are not resourceful. You cannot successfully delegate if you always delegate to a computer because you will have to come back for the report before you can get it; and better be sure that the instructions you gave are accurate. They never take a second look at what lies before them neither do they seek better ways of executing their tasks. It’s not their fault; they just aren’t wired to do so.

If you upgrade a computer, you increase their efficiency not their effectiveness. They only get better at being ineffective not better. The only way to convert a computer is to execute a total overhaul. That is change the motherboard! You need to overhaul their prevailing mindset into what makes an effective worker. This is what we call Mental Revolution; and it comes best through Coaching.

Coaching takes time to work out and it can be quite challenging especially when the “computer” in question doesn’t see any reasons why he should change. And mind you, it costs quite some. If you think your computers are inseparable from you, employ coaching. But ensure that subsequent hiring efforts do not land you more computers.

My best advice to you is: don’t hire computers!

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Adeleke David Adeosun

 (Mr. Effectiveness)

GLADIATORS IN THE WORKPLACE

If you have seen the movie, Gladiators, you will notice that every time Maximus stepped into the arena, it was another defining moment of his life. It wasn't exactly about the feat of retaining his title as the reigning champion as much as it was about surviving for yet another fight.

It is saddening that the equivalent holds true in most workplace today. It is not uncommon to find workers in an establishment engaged in stiff competition marked by rivalry and hatred for one another. This is the underlying mindset behind Office Politicking.

I found it necessary to address this menace today while I was reading Life@Work by John C. Maxwell, Thomas Addington and Stephen Graves.

The most subtle danger posed to workplace effectiveness is a negative mindset of the essence of being skilful. For the most part, many perceive skill as a weapon of destruction and dominance. It is employed to outsmart others and maintain the lead in the race for the title of "King of the Hill".

Let me say here: Work is not a competition! It is not a struggle for dominance. It is not a contest for survival and supremacy. It is not a tool for breasting the tape in the race up the corporate ladder. As long as it is viewed in that light, you will waste your energies doing the wrong thing; that way you can never be effective. Work is not a competition in search of the winner. It is not supposed to be a lack of competition because the competition should be against your previous best.

David Sarnoff quipped, "Competition brings out the best in products and the worst in people." And it is very true; especially when the competition is directed outward to others.



If you have listened to my audio training program on Exceptional Effectiveness, you will clearly understand this in the part where I addressed the Motive parameter under our Effectiveness Model.

You need to make a shift!

GLADIATOR        ----------------------->>>>>>>               BENEFACTOR

"Talent for talent's sake is a bauble and a show. Talent working with joy in the cause of universal  truth lifts the possessor to new power as a benefactor." ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

Your goal in the workplace among other critically important ones is to:

1. Excel not surpass
2. Perform not win
3. Be a marvel not a threat
4. Be a genius not a rival
5. Be a benefactor not an oppressor

I have said over the years that you should strive to be your best not the best. And I have not changed my mind about that. You ought to become the genius who with a minimum of technical equipment and a maximum of craftsmanship can make something of wonder out of very little. This is just a perfect way of rewriting my definition of Effectiveness: Ability to achieve more significant results win a shorter time